Technically Spiritual – Laws of Attraction

Have you noticed how cleverly google, FB and any other browser sneaks in just the exact thing on your mind or something that you were mulling over for a few days to buy - a dress, a product, a holiday, a fitness class, a discount coupon. You wanted and it is right there- peeping though your advertisement window, sitting in your email, showing in suggestions, friend tags or may be a random call.You in a way attract whats in your mind.

Technical reasons state that internet picks up from our latest searches, kind of websites, online shopping preferences, things we hit “Like” and anything we remotely feed into the system for us to know . This process of typing in is so natural that at times we don’t really realize we are “inputting our thought” into finding information.

Putting out to the intelligence of the universe is a similar mechanics. In fact it would not be wrong to say that the first is borrowed from the latter. Just as you use keyboard to type in to google, human brain uses thought and speech as a medium of input to his cloud of immense intelligence – the universe – a result thereafter is a person, a situation, gains, loses which matches the wavelength of your thought, shows itself to you . In fact, the algorithm of the universe is so efficient that it customizes the product and share with you – it take exact inputs. So if you don’t like what is around you, it is simple. Change the input – and the universe will customize it for you . What you radiate is what you attract. Know this – own this, align to this , if your want is your desperation, you will have no option but to align.

Internet works on electromagnetic waves and is technical in natural, proven with proofs as algorithms available running as codes. The fact is we don’t see the algorithms but that doesn’t mean they are not there or that they are not working. Even if we see them, we won’t understand them or even realize these are the algorithms running in loops. They may look complex, unappealing and even ugly to us but for the ones who know how to decode it, know exactly what they are and what purpose they serve.

Spiritually technical or technically spiritual is upto you . Honestly it does not matter. It does not matter what metaphor or simile one uses to realize this.Fact is, the earlier one realizes it, the urge to get aligned to this will be natural.

Dream !!

Dream .... Dream big , cuz this is a reality one wants to live
Dream , dream wide ...cuz you never know what you might end up gaining ,
Dream ... Dream versatile ... to shun your fears that firms up beneath your chest
Dream ... soar high ..... cuz you know not what you may get




Dream ... dream wild ... let your imagination dream
Dream ...dream deep .....To feel your inner element make
Dream Big ,
Dream small ,
With eyes closed ,
With eyes wide open ....
Cuz U may never know , When your fantasies may just be blessed

Dream cuz it takes nothing ... Dream to set your soul free
Dream ...... To be happy ...
Dream ....to be hopeful !!

Dream ... cuz you never know ..when happiness strikes you in disguise !!

Strength: A day older , a day wiser !

Everyone goes through certain Highs & Lows in life . It takes time for you to realize that they are a part & parcel of your life ! Sometimes you feel "why me " " I have always felt right - chose to do  things ..things only to bring smiles on faces of people I cared - But still why this treatment to me  "

But actually , you realize your strength then  .The strength you have in you that will get you through anything . Pull you up through the worst ; even when it takes time .

My strength is - To Take a decision .

Simple as it may sound , but many people feel "guilt " of taking it & play the blame game - pushing causes to everything else to make the party realize about the crap .
Confusions , remorse , anger ,victimized approach is what stocks up next .Not for me .Its does not define me . Neither does writing about feminism and gloating about  fight backs work for me . I personally think these are extremely weak minded people who need reassurance from the others around that they are strong .According to me , immaterial of men or women , if someone is treating you the way you dont like it , you yourself need to do something about it  .

I cut the drama . I take a decision . Decision after a lot of observation of patterns & behaviors , a lot of pondering , taking and reasoning myself as to why; leading to a decision  . And I live by it . My mind is blank and at a plain sublime rest when I have taken a decision . I feel lighter .I religiously follow it .


Come to logically think of it - I select the people & give them the power to govern me ( I like doing that - this is my definition of making the person feel special  ) because I choose them & I trust them to judiciously "not " use it . But if at the end of the day , I feel otherwise , why should I bear the brunt of it ? What portion of this should make "me" feel bad ? Yes - disappointing because trust failed even after repeatedly let go offs  . Horribly upset because of the closeness shared . But its ok . This case may be an exception . Rest are different . Good part is I know the type that I would wish to avoid in future for trusting .

It is in you . You dont manifest it . Its like something inside you which you always possessed , but  was dormant .You dont know about it because you havent really used it as the ocassion to use it has never arisin .When you are in a non pleasant situation - you bound to act lousy - but the actions post it , determine your true self . You find it once - that's a struggle , like X men trying to realize & learn to channelize the power .And once when you know you have it in you , you then just use it when you require it !

 May be I get it from my parents ! May be I get it from my mother ! May be she is the strength that has always been with me .Consiously ; subconsciously !I am thankful to her every bit , every core for this !

Old saying -A man is known by the company he keeps ! Well I follow it with heart . And trust me If I have picked you to be in the list - I have vested more than money in you - I have vested my heart ! :)

Each day is beautiful - Each day God makes me a day older & a day wiser !

All the world's a stage - make sure you are true to yourself !

Fake Smiles & Hugs
To do away with "Hellos"
Ungrateful meaningless  "Thank You "
Superficial Likes & Laughs
Unsure promises convinced to be believed into truth 
An Issue/argument  full stop " Sorry "

Thats what the world has become .

"Living in the moment " is confused with "momentary"

To love is mixed with "Fear of attachment or dependency " . Addictions are conveniently chosen over vices .
"Larger than life "  is appreciated but only when it is for self . "Selflessness " is welcome only when displayed by someone else !
"Regret & Grief "  overcomes the emotion of " Happiness & vibrancy "
 "Lust & body" allures more than a meaningful talk on coffee ..."Words " are only spoken , actions -"tangent"

"Care " is categorized as smothering of space .  "Acting cool"takes over feeling of escapism .Restlessness of mind is stated as boredom .

What are we making of this world ? What are we trying to make the world around us ?What are we scared about  ? Have we lost the actual meaning in the lieu of making things simple ? An artificial world of illusion &  hallucination is what we have managed to create - an live in it . Some day - it will hit hard -a day unknown , but it will hit like a streak of flashed light , too bright to blind the eyes  !

To strengthen a mind is an exercise - to have a strong heart ; you should be born with it ! A strong heart doesnt deny or guard a feel or judge - It skips a beat & swims  ; dips itself in each emotion - Let ppl peep inside & yet be assured of nothing being stolen .

Somewhere in taking things light - we have forgotten the meaning of "emotions " .They can never be logical - they are meant to be illogical - In a mad rush of living a life of practicality - we forget the importance of "bonds" we create - and time we give to each bond to nurture .Its a "ready to instant cook " world that we live in . But doesn't a  brewed coffee tastes better than an instant one , a timeless wine tastes smoother after being stored for numerous years .
Today ,  what is available, is in demand ; What is not - who cares! But life doesn't work on Business Rules - not all the time !

A strong heart feels - feels fearlessly  ; A clear eye speaks - speaks honest & brash !

What you give back to the world is what you receive - How many times do we ask ourselves - What are we giving to the universe & with what right do we demand !


This is the world I live in - May be you live in too . I dont choose to alter any of it- that's not my job ! .  I live in it - But this doesn't defines me . Yes , My individuality remains - Stout & Tall ! Yes , I create my world around me !

Being Beautiful - Staying yourself- Being Beautiful

All our lives , we want to be someone else . Be like someone else . Live like someone else . What we have , What we are , suddenly comes across as of no value . Suddenly whatever is not there with us , becomes of high importance . Where does this end ? To logically come to think of it , each time you acquire what you think you want to have , it becomes what you already have . The moment it becomes what you “already have” , it has no value .

Start appreciating what you have . This really does not mean that one should stop thriving to get more .It doesn’t mean one should sit in a corner of the room complacent about things .
If the thrust for knowing , learning , acquiring in life is not present , it would be a life without passion . & Life without passion is a living death .

  Focus is not on “Acquiring is bad “... but the focus is more on “appreciating what you have “ . What we learnt as a kid, worked then. What our parents taught us, is of high importance as they are their experience in their situations, which form the base our our thinking. But they can’t be used as in and same. The feeling/intention/emotion behind these experiences need to be understood clearly and respected. Situations that we are in now are far more different than what our elders were in . A decision taken 20 years back may look valid then, may not now.

  The essence of the moment  is “Learning –Unlearning – Re learning “It gives you the scope to understand yourself better. Remove oneself of the unnecessary guilt, makes life a lighter and beautiful place to live.

Only if you want to be acting all your life – professionally – you need to be yourself somewhere , take pride in your existence , feel comfortable with yourself , only then it becomes as smooth as a snake , to slide into a character mould – a character mould at corporate , in organization , consultancy , movies , or any other profession – where nobody is actually interested in seeing the original you on the result .

Do not be the master of your mind . Try to be your mind’s best friend . Guide it through . Lovingly . As you would , for a loved entity /person of yours . At the end of the day , its”your” mind . You possess it . Value it . Be gentle to it . Love it . Let the process of understanding be more friendly rather than despise, remorse,self loathing & guilt.


Easier said than done?? – agreed ! People say “ When you ll fall into it , then ill ask you how much you would implement !! “ – True again . But is it important to claim ? Accept it . Agree that when you are in a situation you cant see , but at the same time accept & trust your people to pull you out of it, accept you need help , agree that you want to try out a different solution .

 Its not a sure shot – But at the end of day – what is a sure shot ? If you wouldn’t appreciate yourself, nobody would ever appreciate you .

Modesty is a virtue & overconfidence is disrespectful. In my version of understanding , Modesty is required, overconfidence workable & boasting – loathful.
When I am shit , I see shit , even when i know that there is gold somewhere in a remote place , i still feel shit , as I am in it . Trust someone at that time , you know is seeing the gold more clearly than you .

Calm waters think deep , show you your own reflection . A thing in the busy time , we don’t do , and when calm , don’t know “how” to do .

  Stay Hungry – Stay Foolish !! One life – handful of beautiful friends- one set of parents , one love –one shot – live beautiful – feel beautiful- Stay beautiful!

The Sky Is Falling ????

Is the world ending in 2011 ? Seems so !!!

Last two days of 2011 seem to be really hectic . The roads are busier , the shops are crowded , the restaurants loud !!
Is everything going to get redundant in the next year ? Are the shops gonna go off to the moon and the restaurants stop serving food after this year ?

All the rush on the streets is about what ? Is the world going to end that people have decided to flee ? A similar kind I noticed when there was plague in Surat ....everybody wanted to run away somewhere , & assure their safety .

But even if the world “was” going to end any which ways , where are these ppl planning to run ? Mars or Saturn ?

What is going to happen ? famine – drought – thunderstorm – tsunami ?
And what best people could do even if it did happen ?I mean its a stampede on the streets out there !!

Its Funny at times why can people breathe ...I mean ppl shop till they drop, run like a leopard all round the year( and more so at the end of the year) eat till they are 100 kgs or choose not to eat at all ....ppl choose to do everything “but” breathe ....

I was sitting in a rickshaw today while going to office on a decently cold morning ! I was just observing people –“running” There were people on bikes thinking(i think) hope they can make impression on their bosses today , people all geared up & armed with their tiffin boxes going to go to office thinking how they can best fight away that 2 % more in their increment cycle. Rickshaw walas thinking how they can suck maximum pockets out of the citizens in the name of “telengana” .

Well off the topic I seriously salute people living monotony !!

I cant understand are people happy ? or tensed ? Or even while they are happy that they thinking of some financial social emotional status to be maintained or fulfilled ?
Why is the purpose of happiness so ...superficial!! i mean ?

Is the world ending in 2011 ?It really seems to me so !!!

Trustfully Yours - Trust !

Trust
The most commonly used word today . Rather , the most hype word today
“You don’t understand the meaning of trust “
“You have broken my trust”
“I trust you “

We do not realize that even when we are throwing a question on the topic of “trust “ so convincingly to the other person , that we ourselves understand very little of it .
Do we know what trust is ? Do We know what it means to break trust ? Do we understand the gravity of acknowledging the fact that we trust a particular person ?
Is it just that we use the word to throw it on to ppl which in turn would make ourselves feel better when we don’t know what to do ? or that we are so devastated by a prevailing situation that we “want” to transfer the blame to some other entity !
I don’t want to make futile effort to define it or go "over broadly" philosophical about the topic.I have lost interest in it anyways !
But i can attempt to write about the characteristics & elements of trust .

-It is inevitable – & you don’t have an option but to trust. You may have choices, sometimes more, sometimes less .. but the decision to trust is inevitable .Whether you want to believe it or not ...whether you do it sooner or later ... the fact is , you do it ...

-Trust fosters trust ; the more you give , the more happier you feel ... If the person in whom you vest it , is a clean soul , It would –by default get transferred into him & would experience a huge sense of responsibility , to keep it

-Trust & forgiveness & not mutually exhaustive, but actually a mutual intersection - what if it does not happen the way you want it? – Reality – it does not really matter! Everybody makes mistakes – everybody wants to be great in life BY forgiving SOMEONE ELSE ....Greatness starts, first by forgiving your own self ! Its easier to write about it than actually do it ! I know that ! & How I know that !! But at the end of day , it has to be done !

-Trust yourself that you will make mistakes – you will learn – you will forgive yourself !! you will ... live !!

-Nobody is born trustworthy – it is more than a virtue . Is  to be nurtured, fostered , grown . & its unconditional . You should not expect if you don’t give..... you shouldn’t even expect when you give ( you would still feel the pinch anyways –cause we are humans at the end of the day & still expect even when we say we don’t ! but a little pinch is better than to be bogged down by it ! )

- Half trust is dangerous : Better choose not to trust rather than trust half halfheartedly!

Trust is that element of an unspoken accepted bond which exist across the universe & one of the most important reason of existence of life on the earth - nature - animals - humans ..everything & everything !
It is one of the secret - vital elements of - "the language of the universe "

I don’t know what is meant by trust ! Just as i don’t know what is meant by love !
I cannot know ! That is the truth & I have accepted & made peace with – cuz sometimes , its better to be ignorant about certain things in life which are too beautiful to understand .
Sometime, someday, somewhere you would find, a person - walking on the street.... Eating an ice cream .....in the train .... in a movie .... on a phone call .... in a hospital ..... through other ppl .......in some way or the other , in any relationship you can think of- brother – sister – friend – enemy – colleague- love interest – long forgotten school time friend –your bestest friend - neighbor ; all what you may want to think of , & also in any relationship you may never think of ....



And then you smile , smile and confirm the happiness about the fact that you don’t know how the mechanics of world – His greater being functions , bow down your head in His greatness & say ... Its your world ... you know how it functions the best !
And you realize, that you trust Him – you trust the vibe of positivity – that epitome of positivity so much that you even make peace with Him even after you fight with Him!



Trust me - Trusting wholeheartedly gives you an all time high !!
:)

Re living life !!

Its true how we forget to live !
We have been so busy doing so many different things that we forget to do the most important thing - "live"

When I was a kid , it was so simple for me , I use to say to myself - " How can I ever loose my sense of being "me" " " .. But every time , I say " How can this ever happen with me !! " ... :) God threw a situation in front of me and said "This is how it happens "
:)

School , colleges , MBAs teach you books , necessary knowledge required to live in the world .... but does nnot teach you how to "Live" ...does not teach you how to " love" does not teach you to "laugh" does not teach you "to live the moment "



Life is like a wide ocean , rather like a journey ..where we are nothing but an origin of the waters in itself ... a wave ..composite of the same element ..yet so different. The same waters turn into life when sudden tide ...and small generations of life filled waves ...start forming , taking shape of wild wave,roaring , gushing , filled with life ,splashing itself relentlessly on the shore . A wave is a wave no more ... but how does it matter .... :) it lived its moment of life , it laughed with pleasure in the arms of the shore , and returned back to the place it belonged . waiting , for a different reason , a different tide , a different pull , a different hope , a different zest , a different zeal . ..without any regrets !

Such is law of the nature ... which we learned fools dont understand , realize , fail to realize - or - even more pitiable - fail to implement !

:)

Thats where you put your feet down down ... realize the fact that you HAVE gone too far from yourself .....and you get on the mission of "re living life " :) opening spaces , for new experiences , new feelings .new people ... :)

Love yourself ... Rest will Follow

At the Hen party yesterday , I became more aware of the fact that it is very important to have lots of things to do for oneself in Life . There is difference between seriousness & rigidity and this should be very clear .

This rigidity is fine if it is doing good to you . But at the end of the day it is a truth that there is no "Perfect Life Partner" only perfect dream boys . All thanks to the Bollywood Film industry & TV serails ,which coveres the minds of the women & the society with this artistic curtain , that every thing seems perfect , thats why one likes to watch it . Who wouldnt like a hunky Dory world , you love some one , you get it , you go ends out for a person and a person realizes it , sooner or later they unite , and they lived happily ever after .

Real world is different ! In the movie where a remorse scene may take only 5 minutes , it may take 5 years in real life ..question is is it really worth it ?

Watching a talk show where some favorite celebs were interviewed , it was very obvious . The ladies loved themselves , to the core , gave a "damn" about only themselves & that is why they were loved by their spouses . Possessiveness did come in the way , but they did not stick to each other at that time & changed because either one of em didnt like it . But adjusted , aligned each other to the ways they thought were mutually best .

And there It became all the more clearer in my mind ... I shouldn't change for somebody .. for anybody cuz then it would no longer be "ME" more than that , I will be a stranger to myself . Not denying the fact that changes do occur , but its when you dont realize the event of change , is a change which is worth keeping .


Affairs turning in to marriages are less possibilities . I want a life long affair with the person I get married to .
A bond that makes me believe that " I stick to the person cause he makes me laugh !!"


"Bhartiya Nari " is in our bloods , so the time the women clan lives , it will remain running in the veins . The only thing is we women need to take it a little "LIGHT" and take a chill pill on that and actually "GO GET A LIFE" of our own !


Explore what you want to do .. find what you like , spend time how you want to instead of cribbing about the fact of why your husband didn't join for your anniversary dinner , or that your love is not returned or that you are neglected or that he is not as romantic as you would want him to be .
Kick it .. bust it ... and go out throw yourself out in the pub or arrange a sleepover with your girlfriends , or a cup of coffee with some good friends .
DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF ! !


The funny part is , we keep expecting ppl to love us back , when we ourselves are not justifying it to ourselves . Do I love my own self before I expect others to love me ? Do I take my own ownership ? Do I make myself happy first ? If I don't know Myself , whom will people love ? stranger that i am to myself ?

One needs to get acquainted with oneself more , and I have started making friends with myself , started talking about myself to me instead of about anybody else . Let people around you think "what an IDIOT I have been that i didn't know the worth of the most precious gift that landed directly in my lap !! "

Life partner is a person that you spend "your" life with .... You need to be clear about "your" life :)

Its the time when the onus of happiness should shift . Its about you take charge of when you want to be happy and sad !! That remote control lies with you & no one else .

Love yourself , and the rest ... .... doest really matters then !
:)

Rain Rain come again ....wash away ..all my pain !!!

Rains ...
Typing diligently on my laptop in office ... I could suddenly feel and smell the humidity in the office which was not very common with AC around . My mind rang a bell..and with a streak of gleam in my heart I said to myself "Its raining !!! "

I have become so monotonously tuned to work that I have practically forgotten what day , what week , and what month I am in . ( I do remember the Fiscal year of the company for follow ups so that keeps me grounded ! lol ) Like a robot i know its "june" but I have forgotten how I use to be happy about June cuz its the month rains start ...

Walking on the road , i feel a drop fall on my arm ...which turns into a soft pour of drops of water ...touching your skin like music .The beauty of the light of the lamp post mixing with virgin rain drops when they see the light & beauty with which it falls in the puddle is indescribable !

Rains in the late nights are simply superb ...the sound crystal clear ... the feel of the wet air .Its like the trees are elated with the feel of drops on them that they swing in joy ..celebration

God always has his own ways of telling me that He is around and he is taking good care of me ... only that sometimes I am so busy being unhappy that i am unable to hear His voice ...not His fault ..not his fault at all :)

Sitting down in the basement ...listening to the rain..breathing in the earthy smell os the wet earth ...I realize how beautiful is the rhythm of the rain . I realize that I waste my time so much in cribbing about life that I overlook a lot of beautiful things around me ..Things which I use to like doing before , and in this fast paced life , I no more do it .


When was the last time i actually took time out to observe the "phenomenon" of Rain !!
I have always been running ...running to go to the office BECAUSE it would start raining ..come out of the office to wish its not raining BECAUSE i have to get home to work on a presentation ! Always preoccupied my mind with Running ..... thinking about an argument ..a grudge .. about what did not work in my life ..running away from the feeling of pain !!!

When did I ever think ... to take time out leisure to simple ..walk in the rain ???? to feel every drop on my face .. to smile when I see happy kids splashing water in the mud puddle .. To "shhhh" my mind and look at the leaves receive the rain drops on their skin with due respect .


I am going to take time out ... to let the rain wash all the thoughts in my head .... hum a song ... smile a lot ... get connected to a part of me that I had lost and myself never knew .... and feel happy about getting connected !!
:)

Beauty is not just skin deep .. Its soul deep !

There is a description of how a “Nayika” should be according to the veda of Dance .
Medium height , long hair , straight hair, sharp features , almond shaped eyes , delicate mannerism , slender arms ,short beautiful feet ornamented , very feminine
I never matched the majority in the checklist .
Tall , curly hair, peacock feet , enough reasons to disqualify myself from the standard format of the “Nayika” .
When reading the literature , it use to depress me a bit . the only thing I liked , and I didn’t fit it ? question :WHY
I was 9 that time
I was given the male roles ..height , body stature …. I have played prominent male characters . Ravana being very prominent , and a character I will remember .
People were like ou why would you want to be Ravan ! lol I found the argument to be vague .
I loved the character! It was the right blend . Right blend of Intellect without a direction , right blend of ego , anger , pride ,lust , ambition went overboard . Dramatic..Expressive ! At time , I felt as if I am the meanest person on the stage … I am ..The Ravana … It’s a character to be respected I feel !
After a certain time , I found that it didn’t matter to me . ….. whether I was fitting the grounds of a stereo typed nayika or not . I was happy ! Cuz I was not only the nayika , I was nayak , I was mother , I was Krishna at the same time I was Ravan , I was Shiv And at the same time I was Yashoda .I was Saraswati at the same time I was Amba , Kaali .I was Vishnu and I was Sheshnaag . I was Radha , Krishna’s Radha , madly in love with him …. Who loves to fight with him , loves to blame him , loves to love him …
I wasn’t beautiful just from one aspect … I was beautiful from every aspect. I felt the beauty in my soul. It really didn’t matter to me wat I was . all that mattered …was I was happy… I was feeling beautiful.. In the rhythm ..rhythm in me ….
Nothing mattered to me then , sadness , worry , happiness , remorse , devastation ,relations …nothing … there was only one moment of truth … that I was there …being in my rhythm ,in sync, feeling a splurge of happiness gushing through my gut & feeling so beautiful in my soul .
It a feeling that a infant experiences when the mother takes it in her arms , with both hands wrapped around it …..caressing it .. It a feeling that you are loved !
And it’s a priceless feeling !
Feeling beautiful …… doesn’t matter ..when you are into a totally different world ….where your priorities change …and focus is not on beauty but being aware !

Feeling :A boon

Its a boon to feel :)
Not in the corporate world ...
Who is bothered .. corporate is not life ... just a part of life :)

Its a boon to feel extremes ...
A lot of people are scared of their own emotions ... they make a conscious effort "not" to feel ... Tough guys hunh !
;)
:)

I dont understand whats so wrong to feel vulnerable .
I use to feel the same earlier ..... snub my emotions ... personal emotions ....but then one fine day ... i said to myself .. why am I doing this ? and for who ? who is that person I want to fool ? myself ?

Feelings are a part of me .. its about how I am feeling at that very moment . Why am I snubbing it ? do i like it when somebody else snubs when i express my feelings to him/her ? NO the question is , then why I am doing this to myself at the very first place ? :) why did I give that right to myself first ? :) its wrong :) i should respect my feelings first ... and then .. the rest does not actually matters .. probably thats how you dont bother about expecting .. may be ..

If i feel love .. overflowing .. I acknowledge it ... i say .. I dont know past ... I dont know future .. i know ... RIGHT NOW ... I feel love ..n the moment is priceless ...result .. smile ... ear to ear sometimes , a trickle of happiness from the eye :) :) :)

When I feel angry , I acknowledge it ... I babble unwanted things .. shout , scream ...... and I say to myself .. I will shout .. i will scream reason being I AM ANGRY ! .....and once i acknowledge it ...be in it ... it gets out of head ... and everything is a calm ocean :)

When I feel devastated .. i acknowledge it ... i accept that I feel bad .. its ok to feel bad ... its ok to feel that things are not going around are pinching you ... you are hurt .. feel the hurt ... in your heart .. n let it out from your eyes ......


Every feeling that you feel .. is your own ... dont disown it :) its your own baby .... its just needs your acknowledgment ..... thats the best way to care for it .. n gradually , it would subside :) very lovingly ..
This is something that i would like to call ..emotional cleansing .. which is utmost necessary !

We make the biggest mistake in life .. keep snubbing what we feel and follow the ridiculous rule "BE HAPPY" . & we follow it so religiously that we dont even realize when we start faking it !
:)
In the most break down situations ... you keep snubbing your feeling ... example sad/remorse/devastation and be presentable all the time ,a happy face to the world .. talk , act out to yourself and at the end .. you end up crying like a baby while watching a funny comedy movie :)
:) :) :) and you start feeling so YUCK abt yourself and say ..what the fuck have you being doing to yourself all this time :) :) :)



Be yourself .... feel what you feel like whenever cuz you are ..at the end of the day a human being :)

THEN ... you ll be happy

Everything will pass by ... happiness , joy , love , sadness, tensions , nothing stays ...

:)

Somethings , although , do last forever :) and for that ......."forever" has to come from within oneself ....and then its just :) Forever :) :) :)

I have learnt it today .. i have felt it today :) from a very very darling friend of mine who is a total sweetheart ! M blessed to have such good souls around me .. :) seriously :) I wish all the happiness in the world for that sweet soul ! :)


Feeling is one of the greatest things God has blessed us with ... And all the more He has blessed us with the power to emote ... this is where He has shown his bias of love towards human beings ...words ,actions ,gestures :) ... how often do we acknowledge it ?

:)

He is a master mind sitting up there :) ... no matter how many physics chemistry we keep applying .. His mechanics are the greatest .... so great that you can never understand .. and why do you want to ? He is there to take care of it ....

Keep feeling ...... keep loving ....keep being "Happy" in the true sense of the word and be a reason for others to be happy and spread the same message :)

"LEISURE"

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

By Wm. Henry Davies.
(Wm. Henry Davies (1871-1940) is to be considered as the poet of the tramps. Born at Newport, Wales in the UK, Davies came to America from Great Britain and lived the life of a vagabond. One day, as the result of jumping a train, he lost one of legs. Davies returned to England where he continued to live the life of a tramp and a pedlar. He wrote poetry (presumably he did right along) and, eventually, he determined to print his own book and did so with the little money he earned panhandling. A copy of this first work, A Soul's Destroyer, came into the hands of George Bernard Shaw; which, in turn, led to the popularization of the poet.

Me , myself & Me

I am ....

*Moody
*Voluble
*Laconic
*Fun Loving
*Peace loving
*Wild
*Serene
*Feminine
*Rough
*Conditions applied : on my terms & conditions

I Loathe
- 2 faced ppl ...cuz i dont know which side to slap first .
- Hypocrisy
- Ultra bossy ppl who think they are over protective but are actually massaging their own ego
- cold food , outside food all the time
- super noisy place
- Bad choreography
- Self centered ppl
- people without integrity
- cockroaches
- lizards
- smudged CCD heart shaped cream on capachino
- over demanding rickshawalas
- when I am outta money :P
- a promise broken
- narrow spaces , narrow mindsets , narrow vision
- tiered of life ppl with no enthusiasm ... or ppl with enthusiam only for themselves not for others
- soaring high temperatures
-Non Veg
- out of proportion & frequent drinking
- Crying , feeling sad , feeling lost , feeling alone
- Feeling like a loser /idiot & over stressing my health cuz of this
-Feeling drained out , lifeless
- rotting my brain cells

*Cannot hate something untill and unless I am MADE to hate ,and then i religiously hate it .*

I love ...
> Myself
> Family
>Aum my lil puchka baby
> very close friends circle
>my individuality
> to be pampered
>to be loved
> to be respected
> to be understood
> lime light for all the right reasons
> lime soda sweet n sour
> to be my parent's daughter
>being a woman that God made me
>flowers
>FLOWERS
>Chocolates
>Gelato Madagascar dark chocolate icecream
> sweets
> Archies card shop
> CCD
> TGIF
> Martini
> Mumma's food preparation
> smell of the earth on first rains
> long late night walks , city expedition at its best
> Mango dolly
> getting lost on a long drive
> being silent at times
> cribbing about all the wrong happening in life and throwing it out
> laughing my worries out
> wide natural spaces ... open sky , wide ocean , huge mountains,Waterfalls
> Greenery
> Nature
> LAughing
> Being happy
> good music
>DANCING
>Cothes
>Cosmetics
> Shoes
> Jwelery
> My debit card
>SHOPPING
>Go Carting
> Adventures
>Creativity
>Life
> Vibrancy ....liveliness
>Enthusiasm
> Day dreaming
>Winters
>popcorns
>Warmth
>Moma's Hug
>DOGGIEEEEEEEEEE
>Colors
> being me

....and lots more unexplored


In this whole exercise , I realized , that it took me 15 minutes to figure out what I disliked and 5 minutes to know what I liked .

Hence proved ... Dil to bachcha hai ji ...Thoda kachcha hai ji !!
:)

And I touch the farthest brightest moon tonight , when I dig down deep in my soul & set it free !

Stage !
A wooden set up ..... set up only for some time ..only till the show is on .. and then dis assembled once the work is done .
Simple .
Thats how ppl think of it .

It means Life to me . Stage : a place one can get only if a person is worth it . You have to EARN the stage to be there . A talent , a flair , a passion ....You should have something ... some "X" factor , only then the stage contains you ... else throws you out .

By God's grace , I have never had any stage fears ! one such reason is that I never tried to do something that i was incompetent of on the stage ... probably thats the reason why I was never scared .
Stage is a feeling of HOME to me . Its like I BELONG there . I was meant to be there... I was BORN to be there .
How can the the very pleasure of being on a stage can stress a person ? Its very vague for me ! It like , when I am on stage, I am the Queen and the audience, my people ! Its like I am The highest point in me then ... it gives me goose bumps ... of being thrilled...excited.....Happy !

More so if I am on the stage to dance !


It sets me free .. the area ,It just does not not create a space for your movements ....but it comes from a lot deeper ..space , freedom in your mind ... your heart !!
Its celebration .. joy , extacy ...


The feeling of being a billionaire is nothing in front of this , Feeling class apart & beyond of a kick experienced by drugs or liquor , Its a feel way too beyond an orgasm ...

Its meditation even when you know you are being watched ..... its a feeling of harmony with the living ...Its you are drifted to this world you have never been each and every time !
Its a Feeling beyond compare !

When the mind is not free , in lots of distress .... soul is wanting to come out ... a feeling that has been suppressed for long sees a wide physical elevated space ...... its a let out ... emotional cleansing .. It is shouting at yourself for keeping a feeling bottled up for long ... and like a soda fizzz it come out ...... and every thing is as calm as deep ocean waters once again ....


The feeling of being a billionaire is nothing in front of this , Feeling class apart & beyond of a kick experienced by drugs or liquor , Its a feel way too beyond an orgasm ...

Its meditation even when you know you are being watched ..... its a feeling of harmony with the living ...Its you are drifted to this world you have never been each and every time !
Its a Feeling beyond compare !

:).... :)


Stage for me is positivity ! The concept of winning or loosing is way beyond for me .... it never strikes me .... what matters is I am on it ... Cuz I m there of the Stage's will , I am loved .. I am respected .. I am acknowledged .. I am ...ME ! Thats what matters

Dance ,Art , Stage , Lights on it , heart throbbing music .... they talk to me ... they are like my friends ..... friends who never defy me ... never loath me ... never point a finger at me ... they never demand any change from me ... but at the same time , they change me for good ! I can never be alone !
God has been very kind to have granted me life long friends , guardians , God in Himself !


And I touch the farthest brightest moon tonight , when I dig down deep in my soul & set it free !

:)

I am blessed , and I take this opportunity , to realize this , and Thank God for every small thing He has done for me :)
Love you :)

Nuptial Bliss

Nuptial Bliss !!
:)
Attended the wedding of my brother , they knew each other from the last 7 years ....
I sat with my brother , who had mehendi on both hands , and was reluctant to take it off even at night 2 o clock . cuz he wanted the color to get the darkest... :) cute naa :)

We sat outside in the chilling cold .. and i had a chance to speak to him abt bhabhi n him . He is usually quiet about all these things :) . I asked him ," when did you know , you had to marry this girl ? " , answer ... " the time i met her . We both just knew it ...it was just like " so when should we get married? " "
:)
I knew it was not a filmy ans . Beacause i cud sense how happy, confidant he was when he said that ...

I was really happy for him !
:)


Its nice to see both tie the nuptial knot :)
But I have seen one thing , very evident ..... even if the girl knows the guy from 10 yrs and then get married , she is still wonders ... if she would be accepted by the guy's side , whether she will be understood , will there be any1 to help her out .....

even if the girl has known the guy from 20 yrs , her eyes will still get wet when she leaves her house (even tho it is for the time being :P yea for me , its going to be lik that :D ) & that time , to be held strongly in the arms of the one taking you as a gesture of " hey m there with yu gurl ! " , is a beautiful feeling :)

Its very important to comfort the new member whom you bring to your family . Its your responsibility that the new member does not follow a custom which is meaningless .. or which is causing discomfort to the member ...

The most exciting part is when you understand the 7 promises and give your consent to it .... when you officially take the lady as your wife , when you have the first official meal in front of all that when you say to yourself "Boss , this is serious business .. YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED !! : lol , life changes .... and it feels superb ! :)

It was a really a nice experience to be a part of the wedding .... EVERYONE cannot be happy , what really matters at the end of the day , if the two , for whom the whole function is for , are happy !

Wishing my brother and bhabhi a beautiful life together !
can just wish to be a queen the time when i get married :) :) :) HOPE SO ;)

All the women , Independent ..throw yr hands up at meah !

Today when people speak about "independent women" and women empowerment and all the facts about "encouraging" the women to be independent is definitely there is most of the forign countries ..
but is it an established concept in India ?
is is still established n accepted in the majority of India?
Women speaking abt the same on the T.V shows and interviews , struggling artists , any media related female personalities , or the top most corporate women , who have established there own businesses .. all of them only make a handful of women as compared to the population of women in India .

The fact is "Women empowerment" or "women fights back" is a very interesting topic for the entertainment media to speak on and make television serials , for film makers to get a blockbuster hit , for politicians to get votes , for potential husbands to get wives

Lets get real guys . do you seriously believe that the whole funda of "working women " is really acceptable?
how many of you guys would understand if your wife had to do an overtime ? or how many of you guys wud let your women give time to wrk at home ?

I dont understand one thing . Why is still the "duty" of women to luk after the house? by this statement i definitely don't mean its the duty of the man .....
i dont still understand why cant there be a 50:50 share of responsibility in everything .. ?
what is so wrong in respecting the individuality of the lady if she wants to wrk ?

why is the women told that there is no need to work jus because the husband is earning enough!
Why is earning the issue ? the issue is NOT earning .. its about WORKING ...

I personally believe that it is an individuality of a women which needs to be respected .
I still dont understand what is the big fuss about . before being a woman , or a man , we are humans . And it is written in Shreemad Bhagwat Geeta that every person must do what he or she is destined to do .
there is a difference between being a man- woman & masculinity - femininity . difference of which i m pasting frm a source as below

"
Femininity stands for a society where gender roles overlap: both men and women are supposed to be modest, tender and concerned with the quality of life.” (Hofstede, page 261) The Masculinity and Femininity dimension describes how cultures differentiate on not between gender roles. Masculine cultures tend to be ambitious and need to excel. Members of these cultures have a tendency to polarize and consider big and fast to be beautiful. In workplaces employees emphasize their work to a great extent (live in order to work) and they admire achievers who accomplished their tasks. Feminine cultures consider quality of life and helping others to be very important. Working is basically to earn money which is necessary for living. In business as well as in private life they strive for consensus and develop sympathy for people who are in trouble. Small and slow are considered to be beautiful.
"
It is ok for females to be a little masculine ... i mean whats so majorly wrong about it i dont understand..infact every man /woman has both a feminine side as well as a masculine side . why is it still not accepted by the society ?

And now the society argues about the role of the bread earner of the family .

Patriarchy is a social system, followed in most regions of India, in which the father or eldest male is head of the household, having authority over women and children. Patriarchy also refers to a system of government by males, and to the dominance of men in social or cultural systems. It may also include title being traced through the male line.

But at the end of the day , i still dont get the point . y if a man is wrking n is the main earner of the family, & if the women of the house also earns , does the focus shift? i dont think so . or does it make the male less important in the family ?

there is something called as " equity" which people should be more bothered of rather than "equality".
I dont want to be equal to anyone . yes i want equity. i want to do the best i can .
Feeling of earning your own money n "spending" your own money is a very special feel ........ which is same .."equal" for male as well as for female .

Most of the families dont want the women of the house to work because they think that too much of independence will loosen their hold over the women . Most of the families don't like the new female member to family to "talk " much as it is a sign of disrespect to voice one's opinion . And some families may just "allow" the female to work (as a "favor" ) so that she keeps doing something but doesnt get anything demanding back home ! What about the credit that she actually deserves for her work ? what about she actually deserves if she is worth it . .

It may sound very orthodox , but yes , this is still prevalent .

the most surprising thing today is that people who are well educated , highly qualified also share the same perspective. Taking the cover of "society" these people say that women of the house are not suppose to wrk .. but wait a second .. what is society made up of? its made up of people ... you n me.. "we" make the rules .... so wats the fuss about. just because a majority of people follow some stupid old fashioned thing , every one should follow it ? says who ?

Regret that schools colleges teach courses , but not talent , not equity !

i believe that the women can take care of the house as well as of her job .. only if her husband n family supports her .. 50:50 .. tats the mantra . this can be a very nice time , where "helping" each other , can turn into spending time together with each other ..... its all how one looks at it !

It can spice up ur romantic lives .. picking each other frm wrk ..spending time out together ... feeling the same luv arnd as ppl claim to have lost after marriage ....... learning frm each other .. sharing if you had a bad day ...find some1 to lean over ..... laughing out the stress ... lots of things can be done .....ONLY if it happens from both ends .

the sad part is . it does not happen frm both ends .. the man of the house wants respect and attention and at the end the girl because she has to be the responsible woman of the house , gives him that . quits job, luks after the house . or may be the case is vice versa ....... i dont knw whos happy in the end n who is sad ... who wins ..who looses ....who dominates ..who comprises .... but thats not it should be !

And i m not here to start a "free women" campaign as well ...
I dont have anything to say to these women who listen to all that and keeps quite or are over dominating or the men who think women arnt capabale enough or anything to the society .

I am always brought up in a very loving environment where i was never humiliated or insulted ...
An environment where i was told to be independent .

where i was told studying was a good thing , And that no matter wat .. "vidya" never leaves you and is useful to you all the time . That working teaches you better ways of life , keeps you occupied , refrains your mind from going into wrong directions , wrong thoughts !

I staunchly believed that i should have my group of ppl with whom i cud interact with
A position where i cud take decisions n would help people .
get appreciation for what i do . for the thought process i have .
this makes me feel independent

Sometimes when you hear comments that are very narrow in magnitude , I get a lil disturbed , rather .... i dont agree with them .Seems how small even the generation of today thinks .

I sometimes wonder real hard ........ will this perspective ever change ?

And your rhythm makes me yours forever ......

Waters can be so deep ..so vast ....so playful ..so calm all at the same time !

After a horrendous workshop of 3 days in Pondicherry , I stole some time out to see the beach (Its a shame that you have been to Pondi and not seen a beach .. & i don regret moving my lazy bum 6 in the morning to go see it ,cuz it was worth it !! :) )

The feeling when the gushing water from the sea splashes your feet and runs back to where it belong , is undescribable ! Forget about worries , You run out of thoughts , all what you can think of is the smell of the ocean , the golden sand , beautiful conches , shells and the sky ..as if reflecting the vast blue water ....or vice versa ?

Beautiful cute crab family catches my eye ....... Only if I were smaller than them , they would look like massive tall dark handsome martians exploring their way on Mars !

Standing inside the waters with my jeans folded upto knee , i see the vastness in the form of blue beautiful water ...and it makes me feel so good .. like i am looking inside myself and can feel the same within me ... the wild big waves can seem to be charging right on to you , but to me , it seemed like a joyous rhythm , a happiness that the waves felt that I was there , playful irresistible arching waves waiting to splash on me ...I opened my arms welcoming them , and saw them gushing in delight towards me ....... It didnt scare me , I knew them , they knew me ! :) May be it was a part of me , that I was seeing there .... A part of me wanting to get lost ... dissolved somewhere there ....

With sandles in my hand , i feel the wet sand underneath my feet when the water runs back , with such a mighty force and it feels like you just want to be there forever .


I just refused to leave the place during the night ! Although the beach was closed , a good portion outside the gates was sand and coconut trees . Resting there on the sand, hearing waves shudder when they hit the beach, is a beauty . It s a music , a rhythm that none can copy or record , you just have to be there to listen to it .

A cup of hot cofffe mug in my hand , sitting by the beach watching a sillhoute of trees in the moonlight , I knew I was going to enter the humdrum life tomorrow , but what really mattered then , was the freedom , the vastness , the sound of the crashing waves , me , and my world !!

Many Happy Returns of the Day Mumma ! :) - Lovingly yours forever !

When a child takes the first step to walk , holding mother's hand and suddenly leaves his mother's finger and starts walking all by himself , the smile that comes on the mothers lips is priceless .
The moment in itself is priceless !

you look back and see , how you have held your mother's hand tightly when you were scared to fall , you have hugged her tight , when you felt unsure , you know she was the one , who would set everything right for you , you look back and you have memories of her standing strong like a rock for you , beautiful , young , taking care of each and everything , which sometimes you very rashly said you never wanted ! :)

Down the memory lane , I see the same ! :)

I see my mother now ! She is still strong as a rock for me , she is still beautiful and young , but in a different way now ! :)

I am a big girl now ( i hav to say so cuz now i earn my own money) but somewhere , some part of me , still clings to her !
And I feel bad abt myself at times cuz there are times that I hav just ignored the love that my mother felt for me . And now , I know what it feels not to be acknowledged for soething that you give so selflessly ! What goes back , comes back I ges :) or may be , its just that you understand certain things only when you reach a certain age , you look back and then make sense out of it !

She was so happy when I was in her arms :) I see the photos , and I can see the love in her eyes that she had for me , She was so happy when I won the recitation competion in my 5th std and sat in the front row to see me take the prize . She was so happy when ppl thought I danced well , and she said , "thats my girl ! " , She was always by my side telling me that world means nothing her in front of me , through thick , and thin , she was the one person who was always there with me , even at times when I thought she wasnt .... she was still there . She was ther with me when I made mistakes in my life , when I flunked my 12th Grade cuzs of my own foolishness , she didnt care a damn about who had to say what ! She knew I wanted her ,and she was there....Right there next to me !

Its the same feel , that I have left my mother's finger , and started walking independently on my feet , But i know even though I fail to see around at times , I know she is there , to catch me when i fall ! or to be there when I need her !
I wanna cling to her at times when i dont feel good , and I realize the warmth that comes from hugging her would solve everything , would put everything right even if I dont tell her anything ! I just know it ! You can definately never grow old for your mother ! never
How can a person called mother be so selfless !

I am writing this because I want to keep myself awake till 12 o clock , cuz I wanna wish my mother a very Happy B day ! :) And that i am thinking about her a lot ! :)

I cant think of gifting anything to her cuz I dont have enough to show my gratitude towards her !
I cant thank her enough for taking care of me like she did , for giving me the values which are a driving source for me day in - day out , for being so patient with me all the time (And not most of the time as well :) ) for spending time with me , for guiding me , for playing with me , for spending those sleepless nights pacifying me , when i howled in my sleep when i was a kid , And umpteen number of so many countless things that she has done for me !

I dont have anything that can match any of the gifts she has given me ! She has given me the strongest years of her youth , her life , her time ....... which is beyond compare !

I wanna thank her for everything that she has done ! And I wanna Wish My MOMA a very Happy B day , and all the happiness ,health, & peace in the universe for her ! May God Bless her , and May the Lord bless me , to give some of my beautiful time to her !

There is a saying in gujarati "Maa te Maa , bija Vagda na Vaa" which means "Mother is the only one who stands by you , thats why she is mother , rest all are as unimportant as weeds in the garden"

Ma ...meri Ma ..Pyari Ma .... MummMA !!

:)

Love you :)

HR is a support function for an organization :Respect it !!

I am tiered of this ongoing Tiff about the role of HR function being a Line - support function in the organization .


You Hear it from the leaders of the corporate world speaking about how HR is becoming a line function -trying to emphasis on the importance of the HR in an organization .

All throughout the Course of HR I did , I kept on hearing professors instilling in the students the very fact that HR is becoming a line function of the organization , at a certain point i felt , they wanted to erase the guilt from within us that we took HR as specialization when others took marketing , finance a revenue generating function , unlike us , a cost center function ....

My question is , is that the only way to show importance of a function in an organization ? by claiming that it is the LINE function ?


Lets face it !
No !
Its not !

HR is very much a support function ...and it does not trouble me . More so , it definitely does not make me feel inferior, cuz I know how important it is ... I know How important is that support to the organization ... I know if that one function ,,, that one support is wrongly alligned , it would make the TATAs and the Birlas fall !!! in no time !!

Why are we not taught that a Support is crucial !!! Why are we not taught that no matter where we go , what we do , what matters it how Good you do it .... there is always a necessity for all sort of function around the globe ....what is important is "are you good at it ? how good ? "



The whole problem comes from the word "SUPPORT" .. its a word which is looked down in the corporate . nobody wants to be the part of a SUPPORT function because every1 wants the limelight which is not possible in SUPPORT . How many times does the HR personnel get an award as compared to the LINE function people .... so WHY go join a support function ?

:) It takes a lot to get into that SUPPORT function .. it takes a lot of courage, responsibility , to go stand on the side of support . It takes courage to be the determining factor for a person who is to get a job , it take courage to decide how the person would grow in the company , how will he be paid , its takes a lot of responsibility to arrive at engagement activities to help retain that one person in the organization who is an achiever ... it takes a lot of guts to decide how would take people in number and quality when you go through expansions , it takes even more to communicate exits to employees in an organization .... It takes more than what people think is "EASY" to manage talent in the organization ...

This is just a helicopter's view of the function , its more deeper that way ...
Striking a simple simile, a mother who is a house wife , cares for the family , and the husband earns , doesnt mean that the role of mother is less , on the contrary , its inevitable cuz if she does not take of the family members , they wouldnt be able to perform different tasks in life ....

More so I am more influenced with the working women who handle house and work together ... or should I say both the husband and wife manage both work and house together .... this is something that I would term as "HR as a business partner " where both have equal responsibility of HR -> people and business->money !! Where the HR trains the line managers to be a good HR manager ... how to handle people more efficiently .... and the line manager trains the HR function on the money , cost part of the organization , thus complementing each other , ultimately painting a bigger picture , together , which is growth of the company !


I dont support the whole debate on HR being line or a support . I believe even when you open a consultancy , you are still a support function on the whole , as you are helping other organizations staff , or rendering a service to the organization .. only that you are more specialized in a particular field .

Synergy is just a word which is still used to grab the attention of fresh MBA graduates , to earn a clap when used in a speach , for people to fall in awe ,as most of them dont know what it actually means !! ..

Very few know how to implement it ... and use it more than a word , cuz it takes a lot of courage to actually DO IT !

The vital question is : What stage are we in to right now ?the whole ego what position the function holds in an organization? or a wholistic view stage on how should the company perform better .

I dont need an answer ... Its an answer that each one in this , or any other profession should answer , to onself , cuz at the end of the day , its important to introspect , inorder to avoid retrospecting !