All the women , Independent ..throw yr hands up at meah !

Today when people speak about "independent women" and women empowerment and all the facts about "encouraging" the women to be independent is definitely there is most of the forign countries ..
but is it an established concept in India ?
is is still established n accepted in the majority of India?
Women speaking abt the same on the T.V shows and interviews , struggling artists , any media related female personalities , or the top most corporate women , who have established there own businesses .. all of them only make a handful of women as compared to the population of women in India .

The fact is "Women empowerment" or "women fights back" is a very interesting topic for the entertainment media to speak on and make television serials , for film makers to get a blockbuster hit , for politicians to get votes , for potential husbands to get wives

Lets get real guys . do you seriously believe that the whole funda of "working women " is really acceptable?
how many of you guys would understand if your wife had to do an overtime ? or how many of you guys wud let your women give time to wrk at home ?

I dont understand one thing . Why is still the "duty" of women to luk after the house? by this statement i definitely don't mean its the duty of the man .....
i dont still understand why cant there be a 50:50 share of responsibility in everything .. ?
what is so wrong in respecting the individuality of the lady if she wants to wrk ?

why is the women told that there is no need to work jus because the husband is earning enough!
Why is earning the issue ? the issue is NOT earning .. its about WORKING ...

I personally believe that it is an individuality of a women which needs to be respected .
I still dont understand what is the big fuss about . before being a woman , or a man , we are humans . And it is written in Shreemad Bhagwat Geeta that every person must do what he or she is destined to do .
there is a difference between being a man- woman & masculinity - femininity . difference of which i m pasting frm a source as below

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Femininity stands for a society where gender roles overlap: both men and women are supposed to be modest, tender and concerned with the quality of life.” (Hofstede, page 261) The Masculinity and Femininity dimension describes how cultures differentiate on not between gender roles. Masculine cultures tend to be ambitious and need to excel. Members of these cultures have a tendency to polarize and consider big and fast to be beautiful. In workplaces employees emphasize their work to a great extent (live in order to work) and they admire achievers who accomplished their tasks. Feminine cultures consider quality of life and helping others to be very important. Working is basically to earn money which is necessary for living. In business as well as in private life they strive for consensus and develop sympathy for people who are in trouble. Small and slow are considered to be beautiful.
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It is ok for females to be a little masculine ... i mean whats so majorly wrong about it i dont understand..infact every man /woman has both a feminine side as well as a masculine side . why is it still not accepted by the society ?

And now the society argues about the role of the bread earner of the family .

Patriarchy is a social system, followed in most regions of India, in which the father or eldest male is head of the household, having authority over women and children. Patriarchy also refers to a system of government by males, and to the dominance of men in social or cultural systems. It may also include title being traced through the male line.

But at the end of the day , i still dont get the point . y if a man is wrking n is the main earner of the family, & if the women of the house also earns , does the focus shift? i dont think so . or does it make the male less important in the family ?

there is something called as " equity" which people should be more bothered of rather than "equality".
I dont want to be equal to anyone . yes i want equity. i want to do the best i can .
Feeling of earning your own money n "spending" your own money is a very special feel ........ which is same .."equal" for male as well as for female .

Most of the families dont want the women of the house to work because they think that too much of independence will loosen their hold over the women . Most of the families don't like the new female member to family to "talk " much as it is a sign of disrespect to voice one's opinion . And some families may just "allow" the female to work (as a "favor" ) so that she keeps doing something but doesnt get anything demanding back home ! What about the credit that she actually deserves for her work ? what about she actually deserves if she is worth it . .

It may sound very orthodox , but yes , this is still prevalent .

the most surprising thing today is that people who are well educated , highly qualified also share the same perspective. Taking the cover of "society" these people say that women of the house are not suppose to wrk .. but wait a second .. what is society made up of? its made up of people ... you n me.. "we" make the rules .... so wats the fuss about. just because a majority of people follow some stupid old fashioned thing , every one should follow it ? says who ?

Regret that schools colleges teach courses , but not talent , not equity !

i believe that the women can take care of the house as well as of her job .. only if her husband n family supports her .. 50:50 .. tats the mantra . this can be a very nice time , where "helping" each other , can turn into spending time together with each other ..... its all how one looks at it !

It can spice up ur romantic lives .. picking each other frm wrk ..spending time out together ... feeling the same luv arnd as ppl claim to have lost after marriage ....... learning frm each other .. sharing if you had a bad day ...find some1 to lean over ..... laughing out the stress ... lots of things can be done .....ONLY if it happens from both ends .

the sad part is . it does not happen frm both ends .. the man of the house wants respect and attention and at the end the girl because she has to be the responsible woman of the house , gives him that . quits job, luks after the house . or may be the case is vice versa ....... i dont knw whos happy in the end n who is sad ... who wins ..who looses ....who dominates ..who comprises .... but thats not it should be !

And i m not here to start a "free women" campaign as well ...
I dont have anything to say to these women who listen to all that and keeps quite or are over dominating or the men who think women arnt capabale enough or anything to the society .

I am always brought up in a very loving environment where i was never humiliated or insulted ...
An environment where i was told to be independent .

where i was told studying was a good thing , And that no matter wat .. "vidya" never leaves you and is useful to you all the time . That working teaches you better ways of life , keeps you occupied , refrains your mind from going into wrong directions , wrong thoughts !

I staunchly believed that i should have my group of ppl with whom i cud interact with
A position where i cud take decisions n would help people .
get appreciation for what i do . for the thought process i have .
this makes me feel independent

Sometimes when you hear comments that are very narrow in magnitude , I get a lil disturbed , rather .... i dont agree with them .Seems how small even the generation of today thinks .

I sometimes wonder real hard ........ will this perspective ever change ?

And your rhythm makes me yours forever ......

Waters can be so deep ..so vast ....so playful ..so calm all at the same time !

After a horrendous workshop of 3 days in Pondicherry , I stole some time out to see the beach (Its a shame that you have been to Pondi and not seen a beach .. & i don regret moving my lazy bum 6 in the morning to go see it ,cuz it was worth it !! :) )

The feeling when the gushing water from the sea splashes your feet and runs back to where it belong , is undescribable ! Forget about worries , You run out of thoughts , all what you can think of is the smell of the ocean , the golden sand , beautiful conches , shells and the sky ..as if reflecting the vast blue water ....or vice versa ?

Beautiful cute crab family catches my eye ....... Only if I were smaller than them , they would look like massive tall dark handsome martians exploring their way on Mars !

Standing inside the waters with my jeans folded upto knee , i see the vastness in the form of blue beautiful water ...and it makes me feel so good .. like i am looking inside myself and can feel the same within me ... the wild big waves can seem to be charging right on to you , but to me , it seemed like a joyous rhythm , a happiness that the waves felt that I was there , playful irresistible arching waves waiting to splash on me ...I opened my arms welcoming them , and saw them gushing in delight towards me ....... It didnt scare me , I knew them , they knew me ! :) May be it was a part of me , that I was seeing there .... A part of me wanting to get lost ... dissolved somewhere there ....

With sandles in my hand , i feel the wet sand underneath my feet when the water runs back , with such a mighty force and it feels like you just want to be there forever .


I just refused to leave the place during the night ! Although the beach was closed , a good portion outside the gates was sand and coconut trees . Resting there on the sand, hearing waves shudder when they hit the beach, is a beauty . It s a music , a rhythm that none can copy or record , you just have to be there to listen to it .

A cup of hot cofffe mug in my hand , sitting by the beach watching a sillhoute of trees in the moonlight , I knew I was going to enter the humdrum life tomorrow , but what really mattered then , was the freedom , the vastness , the sound of the crashing waves , me , and my world !!