At the Hen party yesterday , I became more aware of the fact that it is very important to have lots of things to do for oneself in Life . There is difference between seriousness & rigidity and this should be very clear .
This rigidity is fine if it is doing good to you . But at the end of the day it is a truth that there is no "Perfect Life Partner" only perfect dream boys . All thanks to the Bollywood Film industry & TV serails ,which coveres the minds of the women & the society with this artistic curtain , that every thing seems perfect , thats why one likes to watch it . Who wouldnt like a hunky Dory world , you love some one , you get it , you go ends out for a person and a person realizes it , sooner or later they unite , and they lived happily ever after .
Real world is different ! In the movie where a remorse scene may take only 5 minutes , it may take 5 years in real life ..question is is it really worth it ?
Watching a talk show where some favorite celebs were interviewed , it was very obvious . The ladies loved themselves , to the core , gave a "damn" about only themselves & that is why they were loved by their spouses . Possessiveness did come in the way , but they did not stick to each other at that time & changed because either one of em didnt like it . But adjusted , aligned each other to the ways they thought were mutually best .
And there It became all the more clearer in my mind ... I shouldn't change for somebody .. for anybody cuz then it would no longer be "ME" more than that , I will be a stranger to myself . Not denying the fact that changes do occur , but its when you dont realize the event of change , is a change which is worth keeping .
Affairs turning in to marriages are less possibilities . I want a life long affair with the person I get married to .
A bond that makes me believe that " I stick to the person cause he makes me laugh !!"
"Bhartiya Nari " is in our bloods , so the time the women clan lives , it will remain running in the veins . The only thing is we women need to take it a little "LIGHT" and take a chill pill on that and actually "GO GET A LIFE" of our own !
Explore what you want to do .. find what you like , spend time how you want to instead of cribbing about the fact of why your husband didn't join for your anniversary dinner , or that your love is not returned or that you are neglected or that he is not as romantic as you would want him to be .
Kick it .. bust it ... and go out throw yourself out in the pub or arrange a sleepover with your girlfriends , or a cup of coffee with some good friends .
DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF ! !
The funny part is , we keep expecting ppl to love us back , when we ourselves are not justifying it to ourselves . Do I love my own self before I expect others to love me ? Do I take my own ownership ? Do I make myself happy first ? If I don't know Myself , whom will people love ? stranger that i am to myself ?
One needs to get acquainted with oneself more , and I have started making friends with myself , started talking about myself to me instead of about anybody else . Let people around you think "what an IDIOT I have been that i didn't know the worth of the most precious gift that landed directly in my lap !! "
Life partner is a person that you spend "your" life with .... You need to be clear about "your" life :)
Its the time when the onus of happiness should shift . Its about you take charge of when you want to be happy and sad !! That remote control lies with you & no one else .
Love yourself , and the rest ... .... doest really matters then !
:)
