Nuptial Bliss

Nuptial Bliss !!
:)
Attended the wedding of my brother , they knew each other from the last 7 years ....
I sat with my brother , who had mehendi on both hands , and was reluctant to take it off even at night 2 o clock . cuz he wanted the color to get the darkest... :) cute naa :)

We sat outside in the chilling cold .. and i had a chance to speak to him abt bhabhi n him . He is usually quiet about all these things :) . I asked him ," when did you know , you had to marry this girl ? " , answer ... " the time i met her . We both just knew it ...it was just like " so when should we get married? " "
:)
I knew it was not a filmy ans . Beacause i cud sense how happy, confidant he was when he said that ...

I was really happy for him !
:)


Its nice to see both tie the nuptial knot :)
But I have seen one thing , very evident ..... even if the girl knows the guy from 10 yrs and then get married , she is still wonders ... if she would be accepted by the guy's side , whether she will be understood , will there be any1 to help her out .....

even if the girl has known the guy from 20 yrs , her eyes will still get wet when she leaves her house (even tho it is for the time being :P yea for me , its going to be lik that :D ) & that time , to be held strongly in the arms of the one taking you as a gesture of " hey m there with yu gurl ! " , is a beautiful feeling :)

Its very important to comfort the new member whom you bring to your family . Its your responsibility that the new member does not follow a custom which is meaningless .. or which is causing discomfort to the member ...

The most exciting part is when you understand the 7 promises and give your consent to it .... when you officially take the lady as your wife , when you have the first official meal in front of all that when you say to yourself "Boss , this is serious business .. YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED !! : lol , life changes .... and it feels superb ! :)

It was a really a nice experience to be a part of the wedding .... EVERYONE cannot be happy , what really matters at the end of the day , if the two , for whom the whole function is for , are happy !

Wishing my brother and bhabhi a beautiful life together !
can just wish to be a queen the time when i get married :) :) :) HOPE SO ;)

All the women , Independent ..throw yr hands up at meah !

Today when people speak about "independent women" and women empowerment and all the facts about "encouraging" the women to be independent is definitely there is most of the forign countries ..
but is it an established concept in India ?
is is still established n accepted in the majority of India?
Women speaking abt the same on the T.V shows and interviews , struggling artists , any media related female personalities , or the top most corporate women , who have established there own businesses .. all of them only make a handful of women as compared to the population of women in India .

The fact is "Women empowerment" or "women fights back" is a very interesting topic for the entertainment media to speak on and make television serials , for film makers to get a blockbuster hit , for politicians to get votes , for potential husbands to get wives

Lets get real guys . do you seriously believe that the whole funda of "working women " is really acceptable?
how many of you guys would understand if your wife had to do an overtime ? or how many of you guys wud let your women give time to wrk at home ?

I dont understand one thing . Why is still the "duty" of women to luk after the house? by this statement i definitely don't mean its the duty of the man .....
i dont still understand why cant there be a 50:50 share of responsibility in everything .. ?
what is so wrong in respecting the individuality of the lady if she wants to wrk ?

why is the women told that there is no need to work jus because the husband is earning enough!
Why is earning the issue ? the issue is NOT earning .. its about WORKING ...

I personally believe that it is an individuality of a women which needs to be respected .
I still dont understand what is the big fuss about . before being a woman , or a man , we are humans . And it is written in Shreemad Bhagwat Geeta that every person must do what he or she is destined to do .
there is a difference between being a man- woman & masculinity - femininity . difference of which i m pasting frm a source as below

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Femininity stands for a society where gender roles overlap: both men and women are supposed to be modest, tender and concerned with the quality of life.” (Hofstede, page 261) The Masculinity and Femininity dimension describes how cultures differentiate on not between gender roles. Masculine cultures tend to be ambitious and need to excel. Members of these cultures have a tendency to polarize and consider big and fast to be beautiful. In workplaces employees emphasize their work to a great extent (live in order to work) and they admire achievers who accomplished their tasks. Feminine cultures consider quality of life and helping others to be very important. Working is basically to earn money which is necessary for living. In business as well as in private life they strive for consensus and develop sympathy for people who are in trouble. Small and slow are considered to be beautiful.
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It is ok for females to be a little masculine ... i mean whats so majorly wrong about it i dont understand..infact every man /woman has both a feminine side as well as a masculine side . why is it still not accepted by the society ?

And now the society argues about the role of the bread earner of the family .

Patriarchy is a social system, followed in most regions of India, in which the father or eldest male is head of the household, having authority over women and children. Patriarchy also refers to a system of government by males, and to the dominance of men in social or cultural systems. It may also include title being traced through the male line.

But at the end of the day , i still dont get the point . y if a man is wrking n is the main earner of the family, & if the women of the house also earns , does the focus shift? i dont think so . or does it make the male less important in the family ?

there is something called as " equity" which people should be more bothered of rather than "equality".
I dont want to be equal to anyone . yes i want equity. i want to do the best i can .
Feeling of earning your own money n "spending" your own money is a very special feel ........ which is same .."equal" for male as well as for female .

Most of the families dont want the women of the house to work because they think that too much of independence will loosen their hold over the women . Most of the families don't like the new female member to family to "talk " much as it is a sign of disrespect to voice one's opinion . And some families may just "allow" the female to work (as a "favor" ) so that she keeps doing something but doesnt get anything demanding back home ! What about the credit that she actually deserves for her work ? what about she actually deserves if she is worth it . .

It may sound very orthodox , but yes , this is still prevalent .

the most surprising thing today is that people who are well educated , highly qualified also share the same perspective. Taking the cover of "society" these people say that women of the house are not suppose to wrk .. but wait a second .. what is society made up of? its made up of people ... you n me.. "we" make the rules .... so wats the fuss about. just because a majority of people follow some stupid old fashioned thing , every one should follow it ? says who ?

Regret that schools colleges teach courses , but not talent , not equity !

i believe that the women can take care of the house as well as of her job .. only if her husband n family supports her .. 50:50 .. tats the mantra . this can be a very nice time , where "helping" each other , can turn into spending time together with each other ..... its all how one looks at it !

It can spice up ur romantic lives .. picking each other frm wrk ..spending time out together ... feeling the same luv arnd as ppl claim to have lost after marriage ....... learning frm each other .. sharing if you had a bad day ...find some1 to lean over ..... laughing out the stress ... lots of things can be done .....ONLY if it happens from both ends .

the sad part is . it does not happen frm both ends .. the man of the house wants respect and attention and at the end the girl because she has to be the responsible woman of the house , gives him that . quits job, luks after the house . or may be the case is vice versa ....... i dont knw whos happy in the end n who is sad ... who wins ..who looses ....who dominates ..who comprises .... but thats not it should be !

And i m not here to start a "free women" campaign as well ...
I dont have anything to say to these women who listen to all that and keeps quite or are over dominating or the men who think women arnt capabale enough or anything to the society .

I am always brought up in a very loving environment where i was never humiliated or insulted ...
An environment where i was told to be independent .

where i was told studying was a good thing , And that no matter wat .. "vidya" never leaves you and is useful to you all the time . That working teaches you better ways of life , keeps you occupied , refrains your mind from going into wrong directions , wrong thoughts !

I staunchly believed that i should have my group of ppl with whom i cud interact with
A position where i cud take decisions n would help people .
get appreciation for what i do . for the thought process i have .
this makes me feel independent

Sometimes when you hear comments that are very narrow in magnitude , I get a lil disturbed , rather .... i dont agree with them .Seems how small even the generation of today thinks .

I sometimes wonder real hard ........ will this perspective ever change ?

And your rhythm makes me yours forever ......

Waters can be so deep ..so vast ....so playful ..so calm all at the same time !

After a horrendous workshop of 3 days in Pondicherry , I stole some time out to see the beach (Its a shame that you have been to Pondi and not seen a beach .. & i don regret moving my lazy bum 6 in the morning to go see it ,cuz it was worth it !! :) )

The feeling when the gushing water from the sea splashes your feet and runs back to where it belong , is undescribable ! Forget about worries , You run out of thoughts , all what you can think of is the smell of the ocean , the golden sand , beautiful conches , shells and the sky ..as if reflecting the vast blue water ....or vice versa ?

Beautiful cute crab family catches my eye ....... Only if I were smaller than them , they would look like massive tall dark handsome martians exploring their way on Mars !

Standing inside the waters with my jeans folded upto knee , i see the vastness in the form of blue beautiful water ...and it makes me feel so good .. like i am looking inside myself and can feel the same within me ... the wild big waves can seem to be charging right on to you , but to me , it seemed like a joyous rhythm , a happiness that the waves felt that I was there , playful irresistible arching waves waiting to splash on me ...I opened my arms welcoming them , and saw them gushing in delight towards me ....... It didnt scare me , I knew them , they knew me ! :) May be it was a part of me , that I was seeing there .... A part of me wanting to get lost ... dissolved somewhere there ....

With sandles in my hand , i feel the wet sand underneath my feet when the water runs back , with such a mighty force and it feels like you just want to be there forever .


I just refused to leave the place during the night ! Although the beach was closed , a good portion outside the gates was sand and coconut trees . Resting there on the sand, hearing waves shudder when they hit the beach, is a beauty . It s a music , a rhythm that none can copy or record , you just have to be there to listen to it .

A cup of hot cofffe mug in my hand , sitting by the beach watching a sillhoute of trees in the moonlight , I knew I was going to enter the humdrum life tomorrow , but what really mattered then , was the freedom , the vastness , the sound of the crashing waves , me , and my world !!

Many Happy Returns of the Day Mumma ! :) - Lovingly yours forever !

When a child takes the first step to walk , holding mother's hand and suddenly leaves his mother's finger and starts walking all by himself , the smile that comes on the mothers lips is priceless .
The moment in itself is priceless !

you look back and see , how you have held your mother's hand tightly when you were scared to fall , you have hugged her tight , when you felt unsure , you know she was the one , who would set everything right for you , you look back and you have memories of her standing strong like a rock for you , beautiful , young , taking care of each and everything , which sometimes you very rashly said you never wanted ! :)

Down the memory lane , I see the same ! :)

I see my mother now ! She is still strong as a rock for me , she is still beautiful and young , but in a different way now ! :)

I am a big girl now ( i hav to say so cuz now i earn my own money) but somewhere , some part of me , still clings to her !
And I feel bad abt myself at times cuz there are times that I hav just ignored the love that my mother felt for me . And now , I know what it feels not to be acknowledged for soething that you give so selflessly ! What goes back , comes back I ges :) or may be , its just that you understand certain things only when you reach a certain age , you look back and then make sense out of it !

She was so happy when I was in her arms :) I see the photos , and I can see the love in her eyes that she had for me , She was so happy when I won the recitation competion in my 5th std and sat in the front row to see me take the prize . She was so happy when ppl thought I danced well , and she said , "thats my girl ! " , She was always by my side telling me that world means nothing her in front of me , through thick , and thin , she was the one person who was always there with me , even at times when I thought she wasnt .... she was still there . She was ther with me when I made mistakes in my life , when I flunked my 12th Grade cuzs of my own foolishness , she didnt care a damn about who had to say what ! She knew I wanted her ,and she was there....Right there next to me !

Its the same feel , that I have left my mother's finger , and started walking independently on my feet , But i know even though I fail to see around at times , I know she is there , to catch me when i fall ! or to be there when I need her !
I wanna cling to her at times when i dont feel good , and I realize the warmth that comes from hugging her would solve everything , would put everything right even if I dont tell her anything ! I just know it ! You can definately never grow old for your mother ! never
How can a person called mother be so selfless !

I am writing this because I want to keep myself awake till 12 o clock , cuz I wanna wish my mother a very Happy B day ! :) And that i am thinking about her a lot ! :)

I cant think of gifting anything to her cuz I dont have enough to show my gratitude towards her !
I cant thank her enough for taking care of me like she did , for giving me the values which are a driving source for me day in - day out , for being so patient with me all the time (And not most of the time as well :) ) for spending time with me , for guiding me , for playing with me , for spending those sleepless nights pacifying me , when i howled in my sleep when i was a kid , And umpteen number of so many countless things that she has done for me !

I dont have anything that can match any of the gifts she has given me ! She has given me the strongest years of her youth , her life , her time ....... which is beyond compare !

I wanna thank her for everything that she has done ! And I wanna Wish My MOMA a very Happy B day , and all the happiness ,health, & peace in the universe for her ! May God Bless her , and May the Lord bless me , to give some of my beautiful time to her !

There is a saying in gujarati "Maa te Maa , bija Vagda na Vaa" which means "Mother is the only one who stands by you , thats why she is mother , rest all are as unimportant as weeds in the garden"

Ma ...meri Ma ..Pyari Ma .... MummMA !!

:)

Love you :)

HR is a support function for an organization :Respect it !!

I am tiered of this ongoing Tiff about the role of HR function being a Line - support function in the organization .


You Hear it from the leaders of the corporate world speaking about how HR is becoming a line function -trying to emphasis on the importance of the HR in an organization .

All throughout the Course of HR I did , I kept on hearing professors instilling in the students the very fact that HR is becoming a line function of the organization , at a certain point i felt , they wanted to erase the guilt from within us that we took HR as specialization when others took marketing , finance a revenue generating function , unlike us , a cost center function ....

My question is , is that the only way to show importance of a function in an organization ? by claiming that it is the LINE function ?


Lets face it !
No !
Its not !

HR is very much a support function ...and it does not trouble me . More so , it definitely does not make me feel inferior, cuz I know how important it is ... I know How important is that support to the organization ... I know if that one function ,,, that one support is wrongly alligned , it would make the TATAs and the Birlas fall !!! in no time !!

Why are we not taught that a Support is crucial !!! Why are we not taught that no matter where we go , what we do , what matters it how Good you do it .... there is always a necessity for all sort of function around the globe ....what is important is "are you good at it ? how good ? "



The whole problem comes from the word "SUPPORT" .. its a word which is looked down in the corporate . nobody wants to be the part of a SUPPORT function because every1 wants the limelight which is not possible in SUPPORT . How many times does the HR personnel get an award as compared to the LINE function people .... so WHY go join a support function ?

:) It takes a lot to get into that SUPPORT function .. it takes a lot of courage, responsibility , to go stand on the side of support . It takes courage to be the determining factor for a person who is to get a job , it take courage to decide how the person would grow in the company , how will he be paid , its takes a lot of responsibility to arrive at engagement activities to help retain that one person in the organization who is an achiever ... it takes a lot of guts to decide how would take people in number and quality when you go through expansions , it takes even more to communicate exits to employees in an organization .... It takes more than what people think is "EASY" to manage talent in the organization ...

This is just a helicopter's view of the function , its more deeper that way ...
Striking a simple simile, a mother who is a house wife , cares for the family , and the husband earns , doesnt mean that the role of mother is less , on the contrary , its inevitable cuz if she does not take of the family members , they wouldnt be able to perform different tasks in life ....

More so I am more influenced with the working women who handle house and work together ... or should I say both the husband and wife manage both work and house together .... this is something that I would term as "HR as a business partner " where both have equal responsibility of HR -> people and business->money !! Where the HR trains the line managers to be a good HR manager ... how to handle people more efficiently .... and the line manager trains the HR function on the money , cost part of the organization , thus complementing each other , ultimately painting a bigger picture , together , which is growth of the company !


I dont support the whole debate on HR being line or a support . I believe even when you open a consultancy , you are still a support function on the whole , as you are helping other organizations staff , or rendering a service to the organization .. only that you are more specialized in a particular field .

Synergy is just a word which is still used to grab the attention of fresh MBA graduates , to earn a clap when used in a speach , for people to fall in awe ,as most of them dont know what it actually means !! ..

Very few know how to implement it ... and use it more than a word , cuz it takes a lot of courage to actually DO IT !

The vital question is : What stage are we in to right now ?the whole ego what position the function holds in an organization? or a wholistic view stage on how should the company perform better .

I dont need an answer ... Its an answer that each one in this , or any other profession should answer , to onself , cuz at the end of the day , its important to introspect , inorder to avoid retrospecting !

A compliment a day , Keeps negativity at bay !!!

Any guesses why do we call the workplace as " The Corporate Jungle" ?
Simple !
Because every one is an animal here , trying to pounce on the share of other and make it seem "just right " :)

Everything works here Saam, Daam ,Dand ,Bhed

:)

When it is new , everything is right , but once when you start being in it for a long time , you feel the pressure .

You cannot do anything about it really can you ? So there is no point breaking your head over an iron door when you know you don't have that supernatural power to do it !

So one can do what is within ones limit !

You does not realize but the start of the day , determines how the rest of the day is going to go for you!
A good genuine enthusiastic pleasant "Good Morning" does the trick !
Don't think why the other person is not looking at you , or not wishing you , YOU DO IT !
It is amazing the kind of acknowledgments you get for it , and more than that , you feel good about yourself !

Although there is no guarantee that you will be reciprocated in a similar tone , but there is absolutely no harm in trying , you never know , you could just lift up someones day !

Add a genuine compliment with your greetings and nothings is better ! What gives me pleasure is when i see the effect instantaneously.

The other day , my super boss( an admiring personality , but a reserved one ) came back to office from a long personal leave . Sitting erect in front of the computer , he was all concentrating on the issues which were pending. I was called in for a discussion about an issue I am handling . After the discussion , just while leaving his cabin , keeping the door half open , i popped my head inside , and with a big grin on my face & a genuine cheerful tone , I said ," happy to have you back again in yr cabin Boss! "

And I could see the serious , grim face turn soft , and eventually a lovely big smile coming on his face reaching his eyes , and He said , " Nice to hear that! "
Till one minute after i left the cabin , he worked on his laptop with a smile on his face !

:)

I have this super hyper colleague ,she is like that because she is in stressed almost every time ! lol , but i admire the kind of enthusiasm with which she greets people !
She cribs about the team , and how things at times "don't " work for her , but the next instant , you see her eyes through her spectacles all bright and ready to pull your leg on the next statement you are going to make !

What i like about her is how she "gives" compliments and "takes" compliments .

" That bindi makes your face look elegant "

"U never wear that color of your dress ,you SHOULD ! "

" Ur shirt looks crisp today ! just like yr mood ! " (usually to male colleagues after weekends ,which is so not true , Because everybody is under the Monday Morning Blues Syndrome .. but believe me it works .. at times ! ;)

"Your presentation made a lot of sense ! "

"I like the way you have an eye for details ! "

" Its "you" that's why the work is GOOD ! "

I should not be mistaken here to "butter the boss" , that is the reason why i keep on using "genuine" very frequently !


The key to give positive GENUINE compliments are

observation & empathy !
You need to observe people , understand what makes them happy , and acknowledge their efforts ...

This is a very small step to have a good work atmosphere around you . Or lets say it works as a positive motivation for people at work place in a very tiny way .
But one must remember , Its only step by step that we complete our journey.

Don't hesitate , make that small step everyday , in your journey ...

Don't hold back !

Don't wait to get motivated , motivate someone on the other hand !

Leaders are initiators , try starting , from the simplest of the things !
:)



Everybody , big or small , craves for a compliment ! rather , an acknowledgment !
Either on a professional front , or on a personal front !

On the personal front People find me absurd , when i get call from people whom I hav not met in person for quite some time , I tell them they look just fabulous in the new clothes they just bought , and that i can actually "see" them !

lol

its vague!

I know !

But person on the other side of the line ,smiles , thinking I am absurd ,and that I think about them ! :)
That smile , of my loved one , matters a lot to me :)


You cannot stop what is happening around you , what you can do is , make the place good for you , and keep all that negativity away from you . !

This is not the ONLY step to keep negativity away from you , but definitely an Important first baby step , on which lots of other positives can be built.

Thank you for reading my post ! It really made me happy & I wish every morning you get up with this contagious smile which gets you & every1 around around you going !!!...


A compliment a day , keeps negativity at bay !

:D

Mama m comin home ....

Its beautiful to sit , relax & get back to some of the beautiful memories from the past !

Beautiful time you have spent with your loved ones , special ones , time you were down rolling on the floor on some stupid joke busted outta nowhere from one of your friends , weird risks , adventures you thought could ruin your lives forever lol and also sometimes how you took unimportant things as "the" most serious issues in life n frowned and cribbed over them ! lol

Sitting in the train , going to my hometown , i realized , that i crib about so many things in life , that i have forgotten how to actually "be happy"

Watching a family , sit just right beside me , i could actually think of the times wen we as kids use to travel wid our parents !!! & how happy we were then !

Happy , in the literal sense of the word ! And then it struck me , with getting old , with having a busy routine and a demanding hectic schedule , people become a little inhuman to emotions , and stop appreciating simple things in life ... We are so busy thinking wat is store "tomorrow" & eventually so paranoid with the idea of future being bad , that we work towards it frantically , which stops us from enjoying "now" which is "present" !

I have had times wen i didn't acknowledge that i was having fun , but then after its over , i look back and say , i had a great time !!!! But when i am in that moment , i am in a rush , thinking what i would do after that ! I am not in that moment completely ..

I have been running so much , that i have forgotten , why i am doing this , & it is important for one know the reason "why" , cuz that keeps you grounded to your roots !

For me , success is nothing but being happy ! & the train journey put me to lots of thoughts that i did not think about in last few years . . .

Thoughts that so many things have changed rather evolved for me .... me, my surroundings ,my way of speaking ,dressing , my articulation of thoughts , so much ...

Nature is one such indication , that things have been on constant toll , constange change ...

I remember as a kid i use to be so excited while travelling from my hometown to Delhi( which was very often as a part of our summer vacations with parents ) , excited to see rivers & planes & forests & were fortunate enough to see all of that !

The eyes of this kid who was 4 sitting just on the opposite seat brightens up ,when his mother tells him that he would see a beautiful river under the bridge , but the excitement doesn't last for long as all what he sees is mud , chemical let outs, or dry rivers ...

At that time , i felt , its better to live in the present and enjoy it ! I realized that i had forbidden myself from enjoying , and if i did enjoy , it would be bad/a sin "not for me " .

I dont know when i formed these rules for myself , but i know that they have been there for long ! cuz i think i have probably forgotten how to have a good time ! lol !!It is like , "i want to .. but i cannot ! "

The stretch between vapi and surat is amazing ! Its lush green . We just know 2 shades of green light green and dark green , you should see to believe it ! so many shades of green that m so sure wouldn't even have names ! :)

I said to myself then , this beautiful air , this time , this greenery , i am going to enjoy & feel happy that i am a part of it right now . I closed the book i was reading , n peeped out of the window , captured the beautiful nature i saw , close my eyes , and felt the cool breeze on my face & did not bother about the locks of hair coming onto my face ....... and i felt "home " ... i was happy !

I have been in gujarat ..for 21 years ... and i am so happy about it ! There was a time when i wanted to run away from that place (thats in the relbelious kid's age ! :P ) but i am glad I was here ! cuz now i am a visitor to this place , dunno where will I go next !

:)



I can look back now , and happily say , i enjoyed that moment wen i was in it ! and not look back and regret that i did hav a good time , but i never realized it !

:)

Kaleidoscope

Kaleidoscope , scientifically speaking is a tube of mirrors containing loose colored beads, pebbles, or other small colored objects. The viewer looks in one end and light enters the other end, reflecting off the mirrors.

Thats' how ones view should be to the world ..towards life .
The basic colors , basic shapes when rotated by the power of time , show a totally different design , totally new pattern .

The Kaleidoscope of life shows all colors , colors of happiness, sorrow, pleasure , jealousy , togetherness, loneliness,love, hate , and what not..

Revolving with time, these colors mix , dissolve , and create a totally different pattern , one color leading to another , one color mixing in another , one color just dissolving n losing its identity in another color . Giving a totally different meaning to the shapes disintegrating , coinciding , like a situation dipping in every color of life !

That is one reason why "nature" comes into ones mind when spoken of "life" because it is vast , ever changing ,ever beautiful , and unpredictable .

The only thing is when we view a kaleidoscope , we admire it . Every shape , every pattern , every design , every color .
Only when we view the Kaleidoscope of life , we crib about the very fact of one situation , too rigid a way to view it .

White ,would not have an identity if there is no black .
Green can not be green if yellow and blue don't mix together .
Sometimes it is better that the green of evil n jealousy is overtaken by black .

No color, shape remains constant . It keeps on rotating , for some time its there , the very next moment , takes a totally different pattern . "constant" is not the nature of Kaleidoscope .

More often , We listen what we want to listen , think what we want to think , and see what we want to see .
There can be no fixed prescribed view to life only but one ..... be kaleidoscopic ... view every situation in a different way !

Easier said than done !
I know , somethings in life are not simple as written . It is a challenge to actually "walk the talk "

But one of my very good friend ( hopeless optimist ; just like me ;) ) said " Life is not all that complicated as we make it , because we want it to be complex "

We are the viewers , God is the one to rotate the time , the colors , shapes , just tumble for us .

Only when we sit back , and enjoy , appreciate , the colors of nature ... Broaden our horizons to thinks , feel ,only then we realize a life meant for us , like a free bird who can spread its wings and fly off without fear , anywhere it wants to , just like said by Rabindranath Tagore ... where the mind is without fear & the head is held high