All the world's a stage - make sure you are true to yourself !

Fake Smiles & Hugs
To do away with "Hellos"
Ungrateful meaningless  "Thank You "
Superficial Likes & Laughs
Unsure promises convinced to be believed into truth 
An Issue/argument  full stop " Sorry "

Thats what the world has become .

"Living in the moment " is confused with "momentary"

To love is mixed with "Fear of attachment or dependency " . Addictions are conveniently chosen over vices .
"Larger than life "  is appreciated but only when it is for self . "Selflessness " is welcome only when displayed by someone else !
"Regret & Grief "  overcomes the emotion of " Happiness & vibrancy "
 "Lust & body" allures more than a meaningful talk on coffee ..."Words " are only spoken , actions -"tangent"

"Care " is categorized as smothering of space .  "Acting cool"takes over feeling of escapism .Restlessness of mind is stated as boredom .

What are we making of this world ? What are we trying to make the world around us ?What are we scared about  ? Have we lost the actual meaning in the lieu of making things simple ? An artificial world of illusion &  hallucination is what we have managed to create - an live in it . Some day - it will hit hard -a day unknown , but it will hit like a streak of flashed light , too bright to blind the eyes  !

To strengthen a mind is an exercise - to have a strong heart ; you should be born with it ! A strong heart doesnt deny or guard a feel or judge - It skips a beat & swims  ; dips itself in each emotion - Let ppl peep inside & yet be assured of nothing being stolen .

Somewhere in taking things light - we have forgotten the meaning of "emotions " .They can never be logical - they are meant to be illogical - In a mad rush of living a life of practicality - we forget the importance of "bonds" we create - and time we give to each bond to nurture .Its a "ready to instant cook " world that we live in . But doesn't a  brewed coffee tastes better than an instant one , a timeless wine tastes smoother after being stored for numerous years .
Today ,  what is available, is in demand ; What is not - who cares! But life doesn't work on Business Rules - not all the time !

A strong heart feels - feels fearlessly  ; A clear eye speaks - speaks honest & brash !

What you give back to the world is what you receive - How many times do we ask ourselves - What are we giving to the universe & with what right do we demand !


This is the world I live in - May be you live in too . I dont choose to alter any of it- that's not my job ! .  I live in it - But this doesn't defines me . Yes , My individuality remains - Stout & Tall ! Yes , I create my world around me !

Being Beautiful - Staying yourself- Being Beautiful

All our lives , we want to be someone else . Be like someone else . Live like someone else . What we have , What we are , suddenly comes across as of no value . Suddenly whatever is not there with us , becomes of high importance . Where does this end ? To logically come to think of it , each time you acquire what you think you want to have , it becomes what you already have . The moment it becomes what you “already have” , it has no value .

Start appreciating what you have . This really does not mean that one should stop thriving to get more .It doesn’t mean one should sit in a corner of the room complacent about things .
If the thrust for knowing , learning , acquiring in life is not present , it would be a life without passion . & Life without passion is a living death .

  Focus is not on “Acquiring is bad “... but the focus is more on “appreciating what you have “ . What we learnt as a kid, worked then. What our parents taught us, is of high importance as they are their experience in their situations, which form the base our our thinking. But they can’t be used as in and same. The feeling/intention/emotion behind these experiences need to be understood clearly and respected. Situations that we are in now are far more different than what our elders were in . A decision taken 20 years back may look valid then, may not now.

  The essence of the moment  is “Learning –Unlearning – Re learning “It gives you the scope to understand yourself better. Remove oneself of the unnecessary guilt, makes life a lighter and beautiful place to live.

Only if you want to be acting all your life – professionally – you need to be yourself somewhere , take pride in your existence , feel comfortable with yourself , only then it becomes as smooth as a snake , to slide into a character mould – a character mould at corporate , in organization , consultancy , movies , or any other profession – where nobody is actually interested in seeing the original you on the result .

Do not be the master of your mind . Try to be your mind’s best friend . Guide it through . Lovingly . As you would , for a loved entity /person of yours . At the end of the day , its”your” mind . You possess it . Value it . Be gentle to it . Love it . Let the process of understanding be more friendly rather than despise, remorse,self loathing & guilt.


Easier said than done?? – agreed ! People say “ When you ll fall into it , then ill ask you how much you would implement !! “ – True again . But is it important to claim ? Accept it . Agree that when you are in a situation you cant see , but at the same time accept & trust your people to pull you out of it, accept you need help , agree that you want to try out a different solution .

 Its not a sure shot – But at the end of day – what is a sure shot ? If you wouldn’t appreciate yourself, nobody would ever appreciate you .

Modesty is a virtue & overconfidence is disrespectful. In my version of understanding , Modesty is required, overconfidence workable & boasting – loathful.
When I am shit , I see shit , even when i know that there is gold somewhere in a remote place , i still feel shit , as I am in it . Trust someone at that time , you know is seeing the gold more clearly than you .

Calm waters think deep , show you your own reflection . A thing in the busy time , we don’t do , and when calm , don’t know “how” to do .

  Stay Hungry – Stay Foolish !! One life – handful of beautiful friends- one set of parents , one love –one shot – live beautiful – feel beautiful- Stay beautiful!

The Sky Is Falling ????

Is the world ending in 2011 ? Seems so !!!

Last two days of 2011 seem to be really hectic . The roads are busier , the shops are crowded , the restaurants loud !!
Is everything going to get redundant in the next year ? Are the shops gonna go off to the moon and the restaurants stop serving food after this year ?

All the rush on the streets is about what ? Is the world going to end that people have decided to flee ? A similar kind I noticed when there was plague in Surat ....everybody wanted to run away somewhere , & assure their safety .

But even if the world “was” going to end any which ways , where are these ppl planning to run ? Mars or Saturn ?

What is going to happen ? famine – drought – thunderstorm – tsunami ?
And what best people could do even if it did happen ?I mean its a stampede on the streets out there !!

Its Funny at times why can people breathe ...I mean ppl shop till they drop, run like a leopard all round the year( and more so at the end of the year) eat till they are 100 kgs or choose not to eat at all ....ppl choose to do everything “but” breathe ....

I was sitting in a rickshaw today while going to office on a decently cold morning ! I was just observing people –“running” There were people on bikes thinking(i think) hope they can make impression on their bosses today , people all geared up & armed with their tiffin boxes going to go to office thinking how they can best fight away that 2 % more in their increment cycle. Rickshaw walas thinking how they can suck maximum pockets out of the citizens in the name of “telengana” .

Well off the topic I seriously salute people living monotony !!

I cant understand are people happy ? or tensed ? Or even while they are happy that they thinking of some financial social emotional status to be maintained or fulfilled ?
Why is the purpose of happiness so ...superficial!! i mean ?

Is the world ending in 2011 ?It really seems to me so !!!

Trustfully Yours - Trust !

Trust
The most commonly used word today . Rather , the most hype word today
“You don’t understand the meaning of trust “
“You have broken my trust”
“I trust you “

We do not realize that even when we are throwing a question on the topic of “trust “ so convincingly to the other person , that we ourselves understand very little of it .
Do we know what trust is ? Do We know what it means to break trust ? Do we understand the gravity of acknowledging the fact that we trust a particular person ?
Is it just that we use the word to throw it on to ppl which in turn would make ourselves feel better when we don’t know what to do ? or that we are so devastated by a prevailing situation that we “want” to transfer the blame to some other entity !
I don’t want to make futile effort to define it or go "over broadly" philosophical about the topic.I have lost interest in it anyways !
But i can attempt to write about the characteristics & elements of trust .

-It is inevitable – & you don’t have an option but to trust. You may have choices, sometimes more, sometimes less .. but the decision to trust is inevitable .Whether you want to believe it or not ...whether you do it sooner or later ... the fact is , you do it ...

-Trust fosters trust ; the more you give , the more happier you feel ... If the person in whom you vest it , is a clean soul , It would –by default get transferred into him & would experience a huge sense of responsibility , to keep it

-Trust & forgiveness & not mutually exhaustive, but actually a mutual intersection - what if it does not happen the way you want it? – Reality – it does not really matter! Everybody makes mistakes – everybody wants to be great in life BY forgiving SOMEONE ELSE ....Greatness starts, first by forgiving your own self ! Its easier to write about it than actually do it ! I know that ! & How I know that !! But at the end of day , it has to be done !

-Trust yourself that you will make mistakes – you will learn – you will forgive yourself !! you will ... live !!

-Nobody is born trustworthy – it is more than a virtue . Is  to be nurtured, fostered , grown . & its unconditional . You should not expect if you don’t give..... you shouldn’t even expect when you give ( you would still feel the pinch anyways –cause we are humans at the end of the day & still expect even when we say we don’t ! but a little pinch is better than to be bogged down by it ! )

- Half trust is dangerous : Better choose not to trust rather than trust half halfheartedly!

Trust is that element of an unspoken accepted bond which exist across the universe & one of the most important reason of existence of life on the earth - nature - animals - humans ..everything & everything !
It is one of the secret - vital elements of - "the language of the universe "

I don’t know what is meant by trust ! Just as i don’t know what is meant by love !
I cannot know ! That is the truth & I have accepted & made peace with – cuz sometimes , its better to be ignorant about certain things in life which are too beautiful to understand .
Sometime, someday, somewhere you would find, a person - walking on the street.... Eating an ice cream .....in the train .... in a movie .... on a phone call .... in a hospital ..... through other ppl .......in some way or the other , in any relationship you can think of- brother – sister – friend – enemy – colleague- love interest – long forgotten school time friend –your bestest friend - neighbor ; all what you may want to think of , & also in any relationship you may never think of ....



And then you smile , smile and confirm the happiness about the fact that you don’t know how the mechanics of world – His greater being functions , bow down your head in His greatness & say ... Its your world ... you know how it functions the best !
And you realize, that you trust Him – you trust the vibe of positivity – that epitome of positivity so much that you even make peace with Him even after you fight with Him!



Trust me - Trusting wholeheartedly gives you an all time high !!
:)

Re living life !!

Its true how we forget to live !
We have been so busy doing so many different things that we forget to do the most important thing - "live"

When I was a kid , it was so simple for me , I use to say to myself - " How can I ever loose my sense of being "me" " " .. But every time , I say " How can this ever happen with me !! " ... :) God threw a situation in front of me and said "This is how it happens "
:)

School , colleges , MBAs teach you books , necessary knowledge required to live in the world .... but does nnot teach you how to "Live" ...does not teach you how to " love" does not teach you to "laugh" does not teach you "to live the moment "



Life is like a wide ocean , rather like a journey ..where we are nothing but an origin of the waters in itself ... a wave ..composite of the same element ..yet so different. The same waters turn into life when sudden tide ...and small generations of life filled waves ...start forming , taking shape of wild wave,roaring , gushing , filled with life ,splashing itself relentlessly on the shore . A wave is a wave no more ... but how does it matter .... :) it lived its moment of life , it laughed with pleasure in the arms of the shore , and returned back to the place it belonged . waiting , for a different reason , a different tide , a different pull , a different hope , a different zest , a different zeal . ..without any regrets !

Such is law of the nature ... which we learned fools dont understand , realize , fail to realize - or - even more pitiable - fail to implement !

:)

Thats where you put your feet down down ... realize the fact that you HAVE gone too far from yourself .....and you get on the mission of "re living life " :) opening spaces , for new experiences , new feelings .new people ... :)

Love yourself ... Rest will Follow

At the Hen party yesterday , I became more aware of the fact that it is very important to have lots of things to do for oneself in Life . There is difference between seriousness & rigidity and this should be very clear .

This rigidity is fine if it is doing good to you . But at the end of the day it is a truth that there is no "Perfect Life Partner" only perfect dream boys . All thanks to the Bollywood Film industry & TV serails ,which coveres the minds of the women & the society with this artistic curtain , that every thing seems perfect , thats why one likes to watch it . Who wouldnt like a hunky Dory world , you love some one , you get it , you go ends out for a person and a person realizes it , sooner or later they unite , and they lived happily ever after .

Real world is different ! In the movie where a remorse scene may take only 5 minutes , it may take 5 years in real life ..question is is it really worth it ?

Watching a talk show where some favorite celebs were interviewed , it was very obvious . The ladies loved themselves , to the core , gave a "damn" about only themselves & that is why they were loved by their spouses . Possessiveness did come in the way , but they did not stick to each other at that time & changed because either one of em didnt like it . But adjusted , aligned each other to the ways they thought were mutually best .

And there It became all the more clearer in my mind ... I shouldn't change for somebody .. for anybody cuz then it would no longer be "ME" more than that , I will be a stranger to myself . Not denying the fact that changes do occur , but its when you dont realize the event of change , is a change which is worth keeping .


Affairs turning in to marriages are less possibilities . I want a life long affair with the person I get married to .
A bond that makes me believe that " I stick to the person cause he makes me laugh !!"


"Bhartiya Nari " is in our bloods , so the time the women clan lives , it will remain running in the veins . The only thing is we women need to take it a little "LIGHT" and take a chill pill on that and actually "GO GET A LIFE" of our own !


Explore what you want to do .. find what you like , spend time how you want to instead of cribbing about the fact of why your husband didn't join for your anniversary dinner , or that your love is not returned or that you are neglected or that he is not as romantic as you would want him to be .
Kick it .. bust it ... and go out throw yourself out in the pub or arrange a sleepover with your girlfriends , or a cup of coffee with some good friends .
DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF ! !


The funny part is , we keep expecting ppl to love us back , when we ourselves are not justifying it to ourselves . Do I love my own self before I expect others to love me ? Do I take my own ownership ? Do I make myself happy first ? If I don't know Myself , whom will people love ? stranger that i am to myself ?

One needs to get acquainted with oneself more , and I have started making friends with myself , started talking about myself to me instead of about anybody else . Let people around you think "what an IDIOT I have been that i didn't know the worth of the most precious gift that landed directly in my lap !! "

Life partner is a person that you spend "your" life with .... You need to be clear about "your" life :)

Its the time when the onus of happiness should shift . Its about you take charge of when you want to be happy and sad !! That remote control lies with you & no one else .

Love yourself , and the rest ... .... doest really matters then !
:)

Rain Rain come again ....wash away ..all my pain !!!

Rains ...
Typing diligently on my laptop in office ... I could suddenly feel and smell the humidity in the office which was not very common with AC around . My mind rang a bell..and with a streak of gleam in my heart I said to myself "Its raining !!! "

I have become so monotonously tuned to work that I have practically forgotten what day , what week , and what month I am in . ( I do remember the Fiscal year of the company for follow ups so that keeps me grounded ! lol ) Like a robot i know its "june" but I have forgotten how I use to be happy about June cuz its the month rains start ...

Walking on the road , i feel a drop fall on my arm ...which turns into a soft pour of drops of water ...touching your skin like music .The beauty of the light of the lamp post mixing with virgin rain drops when they see the light & beauty with which it falls in the puddle is indescribable !

Rains in the late nights are simply superb ...the sound crystal clear ... the feel of the wet air .Its like the trees are elated with the feel of drops on them that they swing in joy ..celebration

God always has his own ways of telling me that He is around and he is taking good care of me ... only that sometimes I am so busy being unhappy that i am unable to hear His voice ...not His fault ..not his fault at all :)

Sitting down in the basement ...listening to the rain..breathing in the earthy smell os the wet earth ...I realize how beautiful is the rhythm of the rain . I realize that I waste my time so much in cribbing about life that I overlook a lot of beautiful things around me ..Things which I use to like doing before , and in this fast paced life , I no more do it .


When was the last time i actually took time out to observe the "phenomenon" of Rain !!
I have always been running ...running to go to the office BECAUSE it would start raining ..come out of the office to wish its not raining BECAUSE i have to get home to work on a presentation ! Always preoccupied my mind with Running ..... thinking about an argument ..a grudge .. about what did not work in my life ..running away from the feeling of pain !!!

When did I ever think ... to take time out leisure to simple ..walk in the rain ???? to feel every drop on my face .. to smile when I see happy kids splashing water in the mud puddle .. To "shhhh" my mind and look at the leaves receive the rain drops on their skin with due respect .


I am going to take time out ... to let the rain wash all the thoughts in my head .... hum a song ... smile a lot ... get connected to a part of me that I had lost and myself never knew .... and feel happy about getting connected !!
:)